Watch Out: How Breakup Is Taking Over and What to Do About It

While you are going through a breakup, it is difficult for you to see clearly whether you’ll be better off without him/her. The fear of loss always prevents you from making the right judgment. The pain you are suffering seems raw and real and it feels as if nothing would ever ease the ache. It's tempting to want to curl into a tiny ball and hide from the world. However, time couldn’t stop at this moment just for you. Life needs to continue and you still have tons of work to get done. You finally decide to piece yourself back together and try your best to minimize the influence of the heartbreak slump. Here are three tips that you can learn from.

1. Take a social media time-out

You know, sometimes your tricky brain can lie to you and tell you to “be an environmentalist and work in bed today” and “stalk your ex’s new girlfriend’s Instagram and see what a bitch she is” and “accidentally text your ex and grab his attention.” These are the absolute no-no’s of post-breakup recovering. If at all possible, delete your ex from your social media accounts so you aren't spell-bound to look at (or accidentally come across) updates.

I highly recommend using Forest to lock your phone and take a break from all your social media channels. Forest is an app where users can grow a virtual forest by not checking their phones during designated times they set, and thus earn virtual currency to purchase virtual tree species or real trees in the real world. Growing virtual trees on the app—by not fiddling with his phone can help you focus on the things you need to do for school or in office. Believe me, the reluctance to kill digital trees has the magical power to tell you—Stay away from your phone. That’s cheating.

​2. Think of the small things you can do

Now that you can’t sneak a peek on your phone, you might be wondering what you can do when you don’t have assigned tasks you must work on. You can allow yourself to be buried in sorrow and listen to your favorite Adele songs over and over again, or you can start coming up of small things you can do on your new notebooks. This tip is for those who want to get rid of digital devices all together at this stage. Pinterest bullet journal ideas is a good place to get some fresh ideas to make your own bucket list.

​3. Start keeping detailed journals

For those digital die-hard fans, 750 Words can be a wonderful place to start. "Brain dumping" exercise can let you get all that stuff in your head down on paper — without having to worry about incomplete ideas, tangents, and private stuff.

After a particularly tough breakup, I once wrote down everything I wanted in the next guy I was going to date. It sounds a bit like daydreaming but if you're struggling with staying present (as one does during heartbreak), focusing on the (positive!) future is much better than dwelling on the past. Give the new guy all the good characteristics your ex-boyfriend doesn’t have. I know I don’t have to be realistic in this compromised emotional status, neither do you.

It's not blogging or status updating — be yourself, writing whatever you want on an entirely private account, without ever having to title your thoughts or tag topics or share with your networks.

Keep trying to get through it and one day you will be on the other side of the pain, looking back on it and probably feeling thankful that you didn't end up with that person. It'll be scary to love again and risk being hurt, but don't let a broken heart deter you from heading to a new place where you are able to let the light in.